Before the big day you will meet with your photographer to discuss what you want from them on the big day. Most photographers will ask for a "must-have photo list". This leaves a lot of brides unsure as to what exactly should be on this list.
While it's a great idea to give your photographer a list of shots you want taken (you don't want him to miss your grandparents, friends who traveled far to attend or that special shot of you and your mom), you shouldn't feel required to write down every last one. After all, you want the photographer to be creative and comfortable capturing special, spontaneous moments. That said, here's a list of traditional and nontraditional shots of importance. Choose the ones you want, add any others you can think of and hand the list to your photographer. Voila -- you're all set!
Bride, groom and wedding party getting ready
Bride and groom, separately, just before the ceremony
Bride and groom when they first see each other
Outdoor shot (if possible) of bride and groom together before or after ceremony (preferably walking across a lawn or city street, for instance)
Bride and groom with her immediate family
Bride and groom with his immediate family
Bride with parents/stepparents or with each parent separately
Groom with parents/stepparents or with each parent separately
Bride with her grandparents
Groom with his grandparents
Bride with her honor attendants
Groom with his groomsmen
Bride with her maid/matron of honor
Groom with his best man
Bride with flower girls
Groom with ring bearers
Bride with her siblings
Groom with his siblings
Groomsmen affixing their boutonnieres (this usually requires some struggling)
Bride and groom with his attendants
Bride and groom with her attendants
Bride with her bouquet
Bride showing off special details of her gown or other attire (such as the train or bows on her shoes)
Usher escorting guests to seats
Bride arriving at seat, especially if she is arriving by special transportation (horse-drawn carriage, limousine, etc.)
Groom walking down aisle or close-up shot of him at place at altar, before the processional
Each member of processional, during their walk
Bride walking down aisle
Bride kissing her parents upon arriving at altar
Bride and groom at altar (if photography is allowed during ceremony)
Bride and groom lighting unity candle
Parents lighting unity candle
Bride and groom exchanging rings
Close-up of bride and groom as they say their vows
Special religious or ethnic customs during ceremony
Groom lifting bride's blusher
Kiss at end of ceremony
Bride and groom during recessional
Bride and groom holding hands, showing off their wedding rings
Bride's attendants as they help bustle her train
Bride and groom entering reception area
First dance (and the dip, if there is one)
Toasts
Table shots
Bride and groom sharing private moment during the celebration
Parents dancing together
Members of wedding party dancing together
Mother-son dance
Father-daughter dance
Bride tossing her bouquet and person catching it
Single women huddled together on dance floor before bouquet toss
Groom tossing garter and person catching it
Garter ritual (man sliding garter up woman's leg)
Single men huddled together on dance floor before garter toss
Bride and groom spontaneously hugging parents/best friends/siblings during celebration (ask your photographer to keep an eye out for these special moments)
Bride and groom cutting and feeding each other wedding cake
Any children who happen to fall asleep at the reception
Candid, wide-angle shot of celebration in full force (if possible, have your photographer take a picture of the reception from above)
Guests throwing petals or blowing bubbles at bride and groom
Close-ups of food table (if buffet), ring pillow, cake and any other special items (Kiddush cups, seating cards, favors, invitation, etc.)
Ceremony and reception sites, inside and outside
A posed snapshot of everyone you can fit into the frame at the very end of the evening, all waving good-bye.
(photo credit Miguel Irias)